Be certain about whata€™s bothering you. a€?a€?Always,a€™ a€?never,a€™ and absolutes like this are not just an overstatement for the reality, and remove focus from genuine thing youa€™re talking about and structure it as something your lover does incorrect,a€? Thomas says.

Also, view the tone and volume. Not one person responds better to getting yelled at or a snide attitude. Read more